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You've seen him, you like him, you want to get to know him better. So what's next? Well, you could make like it was the 1880's and sit around and wait (and wait) for him to ask YOU out OR you could do the girl power thing and ask him out yourself. But, erm, how? Asking a guy out is a situation that can be fraught with majorly embarrassing pitfalls but with a bit of forward planning, it can be done with minimum cringe and hopefully, a top result! Rule Number 1 - DO YOUR HOMEWORK No, we're not talking your maths homework; we mean your boy research. Find out everything you can about your potential date and use it to your advantage. Knowing his name would be a good start. Finding out who he hangs out with and where will also help. Get your mates to SUBTLY find out if he's interested in you too. Sussing out everything you can will help you know how to ask him out, what you can suggest you do and most importantly of all, find out if you're in with a chance of success. If he's three years above you in school and been going out with his girlfriend for the past year, chances are he's going to say no, so avoid embarrassing errors by doing your homework! |
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Rule Number 2 - KEEP IT CASUAL So you've identified your target and established that he's single and potentially interested, now you can make your move. However it's VITAL that you keep things casual. Getting in his face and saying something like "Will you go out with me?' and then staring at him while he's pressurised into stuttering out an answer, probably isn't the best way. Why not wait for the right opportunity in the conversion and then drop the invite in casually. When he says he can't wait to see Batman Begins take your chance and say something like 'Oh, yeah, me to. We should go..." If he looks keen and/or expresses positive interest, then go in for the kill and either says something like "How about this weekend' or if that's a bit too brazen, text him later with firmer plans. Rule Number 3 - PLAN WHAT TO SAY If you specifically want to ask him out rather than wait for your opportunity, have a plan. Rather than just mumbling 'hey, we should go out sometime...' why not try something like 'Do you fancy going bowling this weekend?' Again you can do it face to face or via your phone but it's probably best to only try this tactic if you're pretty certain he's interested. Suggest something you know he'll go for. If he's not into chick flicks, he's probably not going to want to check out the latest cinematic slush fest with you (save that for your fourth date!) - instead go for something you know he's into. This equals more chance of success - yey! Rule Number 4 - KNOW WHEN TO WALK AWAY So despite all your research and best laid plans, he says No. Don't worry about it! Guys go through this kind of rejection time after time (after all, it's normally them who have to do the asking out) so hold your head up high and move on. Chances are that even though he didn't want to go on a 'date' date with you, he'll still be really chuffed to have been asked so you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Move on and don't stress about it. |
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